The Voice

How does this picture of me appears to you? However you interpret it, is how best I have being able to manage your impression about me. They say first impression goes a lot way and I say every impression goes a longer way. Impression management is when you ensure that your actual self is also how others perceive you. For instance, a man who is accountable to his wife sends a message that he can be trusted. An employee who regularly comes early to work gives an impression, that she is efficient and effective. A mother who is friendly towards her children sends a signal that she can be their confidant and a friend whom before you ask is readily available tell he is reliable and that is because impressions forms opinion.                When you are not cheating, lying, mean, wicked or unfaithful with money, please endeavor not to appear so, to others. Whatever you are not, don’t give any chances to be taken or p...

Generosity goes beyond giving of money; it extends to giving our time, knowledge, space, compliments, forgiveness and anything of value to others. Generosity isn’t about money but about the heart. “A generous heart, kind speech, a life of service and compassion are the things that renew humanity.” When he compels you to go a mile, you can go twain and whenever she asks, let her receive. Be generous with your compliments, when David kills 10,000; please sing it to his hearings. Abigail was able to save herself and family simply by her generosity of kind words and deed to David. “Generosity, kindness, honesty, humor – makes us truly rich.” Waylon Lewis   You can also be generous with your forgiveness, even when he/she doesn't deserves it, still go ahead and give it, such an act can turn a stony heart to gold. To your husband, be generous with your body, even when you don't feel like it, still give it anyway, just like a look at the sunrise tells of the generosity of God....

It’s better to expect less and be delighted than expect more and be disappointed. Life shouldn't be all about you and only what you want, life is also about others. So learn to expect less and make it easy for others to surprise and delight you.    It’s good to live with high expectations, because many times our expectations tend to become our experience. But it’s better to also have realistic expectations that won’t lead to any sort of pressure or frustration. Life is sweet when you are caught by pleasant surprises, than when you expect too much and have it all planned out. Please enjoy the unfolding of each day with your partner. Everyday should be beautiful with your loved ones. Many times my husband would return home with surprising and amazing gifts, at times he changes my wardrobe when I least expected. I remember when we newly got married. I expected too much and thought because I love my husband and he loves me, that there isn't supposed to be any misunder...

"The creative adult is the child who survived”.   There is nothing more artistic than loving people, as there are more than a 1000 ways to love and be loved, if we can be open to its possibilities. Same thing can feel new with our creative ability. To be stylish and creative makes the existing feel new. We can use our imagination to fill in the blank.   Any existing relationship, which is not handled in a new way, can run the risk of loss of interest or such a person being a turn off. Human nature craves new things, and to stay relevant, we have to stay creatively new, for to remain the same can be tiring and boring. Don’t let routine kill the life you are suppose to live, a creative mind plays with the object it loves. From my marriage to my friendships, I keep up the spark. I can make anyone feel like we just met, even after several years of togetherness and the magic is creativity. My families and friends look forward to sharing moments with me because am...

Friendship is Magical. It is the life of every coming together of two or more. Friendship building in any kind of relationship gives it a special spark and lift.  When couples are friends, they are in for a great lift. When a boss and an employee are friends, workplace becomes a home. When parent and children are friends, their relationship becomes cordial. When siblings are friends, they become so inseparable. When friends become friend, you have just got a soul knit friend. When stranger becomes friends, they become a family. Even organization are beginning to build friendship to keep the relationship cordial, they call it "customer care". They are aware, it’s the cheapest way to build repetitive purchase and loyal customer. The above picture is a lecturer - Student friendship built during my undergraduate days, which was an awesome and unforgettable experience. Anywhere you find friendship, please treasure it and where there isn't, start and nurture it, it...

Often times, we place what should start our priority list at the very end, we empower what should not be and dispower what should actually be and then we find out that, we are dissatisfied and displaced. A number of relationships suffer from misplaced priorities. In our early years of marriage, I nearly tread that path of placing my career above my marriage, but I have a husband who will not settle for less, who won’t let anything come above our marriage after God. I am thankful he didn't let us settle for less, rather we went for more. And just when our marriage was rightly placed and positioned, then our career fell in a better state.  We place our marriage above my choices and his preferences, everything we do, we do it for US. We also place people above things and achievements, to us family is everything and it has helped us a great deal. Do you care to know why it has to be my husband or nobody else and why he is my topmost priority? It is because he also pla...

There is no 3rd gender, there is either male or female. If anyone gives up on his/her partner, the person is still going to end up with a male/female. So why not learn to work it out and make what you share flourish and who you have glow.   If you think your man/woman isn't good enough, you are still going to end up with same gender, with little insignificant difference or no difference at all. In fact just when you think what you have is less, you would be surprise to know, you can’t even get more outside. I did a research with five of my males friends and results shows that “men are men, regardless of height, weight, state of origin, educational background and all”, and same goes for female gender. I then conclude that there is no 3rd gender, “that blue is blue, regardless of its shade and because its sky blue, navy blue or turquoise blue does not change it to green. Some years into my marriage, few men asked me to give them one of my friends to marry, thinking t...