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Relationship Booster: Accept Human Limitations

We can only be close to perfection, but we can’t be perfect. It would only be frustrating to expect perfection from anyone. We must learn to accept this reality that no one can be everything to you, and that you also can’t be a hundred percent. No matter how self sufficient we are, we will always need others as much as they need us. And no matter how strong we or others are, we always have a breaking point.

Human’s needs are insatiable and as such no matter how super hero your man is, or how virtuous your woman is, he/she can’t be everything you want from her or do everything you desire. He/she is only human with limitations, so learn to enjoy whatever it’s in their human capacity and capability to do.

When we newly got married, because I knew myself to be conscientious and up to the task. I put myself in that perfection state, and so will often feel bad as though I am not human when my husband points out my limitations, until I learnt that I could be called an angel, but I am only human.

I recently counseled a woman, who is dissatisfied that she couldn’t get more from her man. She wanted her man to be everything and anything she ever wanted.  She wanted her man to meet her financial, emotional, physical and intellectual and every other need. I put it to her that although we might call our men emperors, warriors and kings  and call our women virtuous women, empress and queens, it does not rule out the fact that we are all still flesh and blood.

And that it’s okay to be human and shouldn’t be used against us that we are human. We need to learn to accept ourselves, there isn’t a miracle as great as letting your partner be who they are and not putting them under pressure to be who they are not, and also not to expect from selves what we cannot be or do. The earlier we live with this reality, the more enjoyable our relationships would be. For as much as the head is the lead of the body, its limitations are so many, it cannot walk, neither can it sit, nor clap, nor so is it with men.

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