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Relationship Booster: Mental Subtraction

We don't have to lose a thing to know its worth. It’s a fallacy to conclude that "One doesn't know the value of something until one loses it". There is a positive psychology thinking pattern called “mental subtraction”, where you imagine your life without that person or thing. It’s a way to stimulate gratefulness and know the value of what is ours, and not until when it is lost.

When you can imagine your life without that person, then your life with that person will be more meaningful and beautiful. I know the value and worth of all that I have, including people, things and all. Because I can play the differences between before and after I had them and this makes me treasure them the most. 
                                            
We don't have to get to the junction of closely, nearly or about to lose him/her in order to give our best for it and to preserving it. For to preserve a thing is more costly than to acquired the thing.

Hold firmly what is yours and don't ever let it slip. Let the people in your life know how you are thankful and grateful to have them or to be in a relationship with them. And when you allow yourself to feel the gratitude, then to preserve it would be made easy for you and you will be surprise to see the beautiful side of that union.

#YourHappinessIsMyDelight

#TheMoreYouAreTogetherTheHappiestYouShallBe

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