Relationship Booster: Positive Reinforcement

If I want an action to be repeated over time, I know what to say and how to say it, that the actor will never stop doing it. But when a kind act or word is ignored, it simply means its of no significance to the receiver and don't want it repeated. 

Whenever he does something of indescribable act, please try to find words to describe what he did. And whenever she does an unexplainable act, also find the adjective to explain it. This way you encourage each other to do more.

It doesn't reduce anyone when you tell him/her, the good that has been done. And let it not be only when he/she does something bad, that your lips will only find expression. Because what we frequently recognise and appreciate is what will dominate. So let's be mindful of what we give our attention to.

My friends and I will never deny ourselves such opportunities. We always spill it out, and it has sustained our friendship till date. Even my husband won't miss a chance and it has made us better couple today. Even psychologist recognise force behind positive rein enforcement.

Many times in our relationships we only engage in negative rein enforcement. Where by, we only say what we don't like and dwells so much on the bad and wrong sides. But we can recognise the good deeds done, and see if it won't dominate the bad and the unwanted?

Lets learn to recognise someone's goodness and you will see them want to do more. This has worked greatly in my marriage, as my husband sees so much of my good that its as though I don't have a bad side and that also makes me sees his strength than his weakness. 

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