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Relationship Boosters : Set and Respect Boundaries

Nse Ikpe-Etim is a multiple award winning actress. Upon meeting her, I found her a beautiful soul with a lovely personality, but not without boundaries to protect herself, her marriage and relationships.

Knowing that whatever we don't protect is vulnerable and stands a chance of abuse.

Boundaries are unwritten code of conduct that must not be violated. They might not be spelt out nor written on the walls, but they exist and must be respected.

Setting boundaries protect oneself and respecting boundaries protect the other : And when the two are in place, both party feels totally comfortable in that relationship.

One of such is that, no one need to be told, there are some odd hours, casual calls are not meant to be made and a lot more others.

We must be aware that the respect anyone refuse to give to their relationships, might likely be the reason for its discontinuity.

Moderacy and self- restraint should be a watchword. We need to respect people's space, time, effort, knowledge, money and anything of value and importance.

I have being privilege to have a long term relationship with top level personality at my work place, place of worship and my circle of engagements and that is because I had learnt to respect boundaries.

There is love in respect and people feel loved when respected. 

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