The Voice

There are three dimensions to love; three sides to love we must attain for a lifelong union. The first is to love with our heart, second is to love with our soul and the third is to love with our strength. Many times, we either love at one dimension or at most two dimensions instead of the whole three dimensions which is the perfect love.  The first step of love is with our heart, it's love at feelings stage (emotions). If desired, it transcend to loving with our mind and will, that's where commitment sets in (we find reasons to love on) and the last leg of love is loving with our strength (supporting our professed love with lifelong actions), where we spend our effort, time, strength, money on/for same person.  True and perfect love will not give up at the first or second stage, it would always love on. Loving at these three dimensions may be costly, but the rewards and benefits are lifelong. We are truine being, we are a spirit, that has a soul and lives in a body, as such, ...

You are first an individual before you became or will become a couple. It's the value you place on yourself that you would bring to the union. I remembered, everything I desired as a teen and single are my realities as a grown married woman.  I remembered saying no to almost all the men that came my way then, because there were some values I desired of my man. I simply desired it and I evidently got the same. I desired to be a leading author so badly and I am living the life now.  I was close to dropping out of school at first degree, with no single hope of sponsorship. I simply just desired and my desire birth a miracle of scholarship, in my wildest imagination could not have pictured. Yet, I got it because I desired it. The secret for mostly everything I got and experienced in life is my desire.  I had long desired to be a counselor even without studying psychology, and opportunities for it found me or I would say I found it. Our desire always set the stage for our real...

It would forever take the egg and the sperm to make a baby, just so the man and the woman does not outgrow themselves. It would take a father and mother to be called a parent, a man and a woman to be a couple. No one person can be married or called a husband and wife, it takes two to tango. Life is too short not to enjoy the gift of life with the people in your life, also life is too long not to see who to hold hands with. Life is the people. Life is love, life is the memories, and life is the bond shared. Let's not only breathe in the air, let's breathe in all the love we can give and get. Let's breathe in all the breathtaking people in our lives and world. Let the you glow with others. We can't live life alone or do it all by oneself, we need the other person and other people. The true beauty of life are the people who share it with. No one should downplay the gift of others. Even the beauty of Christmas is the giving, sharing, visiting and the bonding with others. It...

 Little things are significant, especially when done consistently. Little act of kindness, kind words, kind visit, kind call, little gift, little smiles, discreet prayers, and simple text messages has the most lasting impact on relationships than the big gift we never give, and the big vacation we are too busy to plan.  Many wait for big wins, ignoring little wins which are the sweetest, longest, and the quickest way that sum up to big wins. Just as mustard seed looks tiny, yet when mixed with actions of planting, brings the tallest tree. Likewise our small gesture of love and kindness, will yield big results and emotions.  Nothing is too small to give or too little to do. Any small thing done in love and with love turns big in the heart of the significant other. Love is a big word and act, so anything done in the spirit of love multiples and return back with seeds, fruits and trees.  The idea is that big things often takes more time, money and effort for it to happe...

The word "forgiveness" is a commonly used and heard word, but less practiced. Yet for any relationship to flourish, we must be willing to forgive the same person repeatedly. We hurt oneself, how much more will others not hurt us? Hence we must be ready to practice the three arm of Forgiveness. The first arm is to allow oneself to receive and enjoy forgiveness from God. Many people still hold themselves hostage for the very sin God has forgiven long time ago. What we don't know how to receive, we can't know how to give others. The principle is that, there is nothing we have to give that we didn't receive and if we don't know how to receive forgiveness from God, then we won't know how to give forgiveness to men. We must be able to transcend beyond self-forgiveness to being able to forgive others. Many of those who struggle forgiving others are mostly not capable of forgiving themselves. If you can forgive yourself of any wrong or mistake you commit, it would...

Confession is powerful, negative or positive. Meanwhile, Confession should not only be limited to declaration of wrongs, crimes, sins or transgression. You can as well openly confess to the world how much you love your spouse. You can confess to your partner how much you can't do without him/her in it's truest sense. Confess to your children how your world is centered around their mum or dad and how having them is more than a blessing too. Though, your partner may already know some of this confessions, it would be so reassuring for you to boldly declare it and unashamedly say it in the witness of one, two or more people. Other times, your partner doesn't even know, it would be so empowering to clear his/her doubts about your love, shatter his/her ignorance that you do not care and cripple any channel for finding you an alternative. Many times, my husband gives our children very awesome name, we would often call our daughter "Sweet crush" and "Golden star...