Relationship Booster: Enjoy the Difference

DIFFERENCE is an addition. No matter the similarity you share with your partner, there would always be difference between you too. So don't expect all similarities and no difference.

The law of creation pattern after the law of difference. Though He made us all in his image and likeness, yet He made us Male and Female. Though we are joint Heir with Christ, He told one to love and the other to submit (difference). He made one from the dust and the other from the rib, though we are both human.

Whoever you end up with, you must sure learn to enjoy your differences. Your likes, dislike, hobbies, favourite place, values, personal culture, and more will be different, no matter how similar they seems. You need not to work yourself out trying to make another person be like you or do your thing. As long as there is a meeting point, make do with it and learn to enjoy the difference.

You should be able to accept the fact that though your children look alike, they are not the same. They are different and separate entity and you must relate with them as such, and not expect sameness from their person or behavior. My husband and I are different personalities, though we share almost the same value system.

The beauty of difference is that it brighten, color and spice our relationships when the difference is respected; and it frustrate, when one tries to fight it, force it, change it, or manipulate it. We can desire similarities from people we love, but we must first understand the reality of difference, appreciate it and in a subtle way, work around achieving sameness than condemning the other person for being who they are, created to be, simply because they are different from you. No one is a standard.

A lot of people frustrate themselves trying to complain, nag, murmur about the difference in another person, when you can harness the other person's difference to compliment yours. My husband is a introvert and I am an extrovert, I allow let his strength compliment my weakness and vice versa.

The same law of difference applies to us not generalising that all men are a cheat and all women are lovers of money. Or because someone who was a liar show a particular signs or symptoms doesn't not give you the right to conclude on another who also exhibit similar signs to be a liar. Difference is a constant thing among human and creations.

We must learn to enjoy the law of difference. It's one of the way to respect and appreciate creation. It's one of the way to giving the best and getting the best from our relationships.

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