The Voice

It's only natural to look after oneself first,  but one can build a nurture that look beyond self and look towards others. There is no one you genuinely put first, that won't put you first. Even God is not an exception of this rule. When He said "Seek first His Kingdom, and everything other thing He would add to you. The key to abundance, overflow, and lacking nothing is to put others first. When you have a pressing need, still consider its cost for others. When you are asked to go a mile, you can go twain.  Every act of service would not go unrewarded, maybe not directly from the expected, but it sure would be. The law of seed and harvest time is as certain as the law of morning and night. Have you even being asked a question or a favour and you answered or acted in favour of the other person. And with delight, the person reward you more greatly than he would, if you had being self conscious all the way ? If you are alone in the house, there is a way you would behave, tha...

The cheapest way to get who and what you want is to be like that person or thing. Likes will always attract likes. You want a faithful woman as a partner, then be faithful, and in no time the faithful man will find you.  You want your wife to be submissive, then submit in a manly way, she won't know when she will begin to yield to you at will. God was drawn to man in the garden of Eden because, only man was made in the likeness and image of God. Why we struggle to get what we want, or what we want people we love to be is because we are far from what we want and expect from others. Imagine a woman who respect her man, she would never be disrespectful by the man, because disrespect will be strange to him. Sometimes, when I want my daughter to do something, I don't even say it in words. I act it and before I know it, she act alongside with me. Even without the use of words, you can get someone to do something, simply by doing it. Before you ask others to do anything or be anything...

To be irreplaceable, you must bring something of worth to the table when you are in a place or with someone. We call some people irreplaceable because they are value adding people, they earned it and not just a mere adjective. This law simply says each person should contribute something valuable to another, in order to be and stay relevant and also to moisturise their relationship. Let no one be of the habit of taking, receiving, getting, collecting and never giving. The sea that did, without any exchange became a dead sea. Any relationship or marriage that does not fulfil this law, will put a strain on their relationship. It's either the person loses his/her value, because something must leave your hand for you to earn something. There is no free meal at all, even the person who showered you all the love, want to be loved back.  The reason that union is not working or will not work is because there is no exchange. So take corrective measures by starting where you are and with the ...

There is peculiarity in everything in life. One must not make the mistake of treating people, and situations as though they are the same. Some generalize that men are unfaithful, while some others concludes that women are lovers of money.  In order to have a beautiful relationship and marriage, one must treat his/her partner different from the general opinion and should handle situations from their unique standpoint. An instance, you see a strange message on your partner's phone, it would be immature of you to immediately assume  anything when you haven't even asked him or her or thoroughly give the situation a thought.  It would be unfair for you to think the way your neighbor husband is, is the way your husband too, simply because they share some similarity in traits or behavior, which has not being proven true. We should learn to play the right card in our relationship, just like how we play it in WHOT game. We know just when to drop pick two, pick five, general market...

 To be loved back is the simplest thing to achieve, if you would love in the right way. It's not enough "To say I love you", but "To do I love you". There is no one you would truly be attentive to, that won't feel loved, and be motivated to love you back. It's not enough to just see things and hear people, be attentive to details, and listen to what is not shared, and seen. Be deliberate enough to go beneath the surface, be sensitive enough to go the extra miles when you are asked a mile. I have heard people say to me " I didn't even know there is a hole or need inside of me till you filled it", at other times another said "I didn't even know I need it, till you gave it", and amazingly, this people would give the earth just for me, and can make the heaven stand still for my sake. We must give value to be valuable. There is no free meal, and even if there is, it is best for it to be earned than to be given. Be conscious to inve...