The Voice

Freedom breeds fulfillment. It gives one a feel, money, gold and nothing else can give. Even God had to give man a free will. He could easily enforce his laws and precepts on us but he gave us the will to choose because he is aware of the fulfillment freedom gives. Freedom has gone beyond being not locked up in the room. It is creating an atmosphere where people can be the best of themselves, where they can flourish at their areas of strength, enabling one to freely express their choice and preference on a matter without fear of judgments.                 One way to save what is owned is give it freedom. The freedom we have enjoyed in our marriage has created a healthy environment for us and those around us. I have the total support and back up of my husband to flourish in my career and endeavors and that in turn has added more beauty to our union and I also support all his visions by will and not unde...

The easiest way to win anyone is to place a high values on what they hold dear, precious and values. It is only natural for people of similar values to be found together. It would come easy for a sport oriented person to easily flow with another of the same.  I won the interest of a great mentor, unknowingly to me, because I had placed value on what he loves and cherish and that was just the beginning of it. Whatever my husband values as always being my priorities and it makes it easy for him to love me till always and forever. If you know what your partner values, it’s high time you start placing value on those. Apostle Paul stayed with Aquila and Priscilla; because he was of the same craft. We appreciate people of shared values and so celebrate similarities with others. People will celebrate you when you place value on whatever means so much to them. Some of my values are responsiveness, respect, friendliness, openness and to get me to the table, just display any o...

The highest form of knowledge is empathy. It is a strong connection point with others. It’s a needed skill for harmonious relationship and to also minimize stress and strain. When we develop our power of empathy, the other party opens up to us, fostering a happy union. Loving others is simply loving oneself. When we judge people’s act, we can’t also have the time to love them. But if you want to love others, show empathy. A lot of times, we show sympathy when in actually sense people need our empathy. To show empathy is to see with the eyes of another, hears through the ears of another and listen with the heart of another. We connect more, deeper and better with one another that way. Showing empathy is for you to understand the likely challenges the other might likely be going through and vice versa. It reduces the invisible gap, knowing someone else can feels what you are feeling and understand best. Empathy is the greatest virtue, from it all virtues flow and without it, all...

We can only be close to perfection, but we can’t be perfect. It would only be frustrating to expect perfection from anyone. We must learn to accept this reality that no one can be everything to you, and that you also can’t be a hundred percent. No matter how self sufficient we are, we will always need others as much as they need us. And no matter how strong we or others are, we always have a breaking point. Human’s needs are insatiable and as such no matter how super hero your man is, or how virtuous your woman is, he/she can’t be everything you want from her or do everything you desire. He/she is only human with limitations, so learn to enjoy whatever it’s in their human capacity and capability to do. When we newly got married, because I knew myself to be conscientious and up to the task. I put myself in that perfection state, and so will often feel bad as though I am not human when my husband points out my limitations, until I learnt that I could be called an angel, bu...

Apple is not better than tomatoes; they only serve a different purpose. Equally people, things and situations are unique, so trying to see them with the same eyes is undermining their essence. Learn to enjoy the beauty of individual differences, which is where the world gets its color. When you begin to compare your partner's characteristics to another, it would only blindfold you to the good sides of your partner. It's just like comparing eyes to legs, you might be mistaken to think eyes are superior to legs, but none is inferior to another, they've only got a different purpose. Comparison does no good than to make you appreciate less what you have. Don't ever play the game of comparing different things, timing or people. When you judge your relationships by the characteristic of another is when you will think theirs is better, but theirs is just different and not better.                  ...

Everyone has got a soft spot and until you touch that part of a man or woman, nothing changes. There is a way you will talk that can break the hardest of soul and there is a way you will act that the toughest person will care to listen. When that soft spot is touched, no person can resist yielding to your desire. It’s the breaking point in everyone, where he/she melt like an ice cream under the sun. And I do not mean only physical when I say soft spot, it is talking or acting in a way that touches the softness in a person, which is peculiar to every individual. I remembered that day my husband touched my softest spot with his kindness, my spirit, soul, and body find it the easiest to submit and irresistible to love him till next life and beyond. Equally, that husband, wife, children, relatives, boss, the customer also have a soft spot. You haven't had your way yet with them because you are yet to touch their soft spot, you have only and always being touching their hard...

How does this picture of me appears to you? However you interpret it, is how best I have being able to manage your impression about me. They say first impression goes a lot way and I say every impression goes a longer way. Impression management is when you ensure that your actual self is also how others perceive you. For instance, a man who is accountable to his wife sends a message that he can be trusted. An employee who regularly comes early to work gives an impression, that she is efficient and effective. A mother who is friendly towards her children sends a signal that she can be their confidant and a friend whom before you ask is readily available tell he is reliable and that is because impressions forms opinion.                When you are not cheating, lying, mean, wicked or unfaithful with money, please endeavor not to appear so, to others. Whatever you are not, don’t give any chances to be taken or p...