The Voice

"The creative adult is the child who survived”.   There is nothing more artistic than loving people, as there are more than a 1000 ways to love and be loved, if we can be open to its possibilities. Same thing can feel new with our creative ability. To be stylish and creative makes the existing feel new. We can use our imagination to fill in the blank.   Any existing relationship, which is not handled in a new way, can run the risk of loss of interest or such a person being a turn off. Human nature craves new things, and to stay relevant, we have to stay creatively new, for to remain the same can be tiring and boring. Don’t let routine kill the life you are suppose to live, a creative mind plays with the object it loves. From my marriage to my friendships, I keep up the spark. I can make anyone feel like we just met, even after several years of togetherness and the magic is creativity. My families and friends look forward to sharing moments with me because am...

Friendship is Magical. It is the life of every coming together of two or more. Friendship building in any kind of relationship gives it a special spark and lift.  When couples are friends, they are in for a great lift. When a boss and an employee are friends, workplace becomes a home. When parent and children are friends, their relationship becomes cordial. When siblings are friends, they become so inseparable. When friends become friend, you have just got a soul knit friend. When stranger becomes friends, they become a family. Even organization are beginning to build friendship to keep the relationship cordial, they call it "customer care". They are aware, it’s the cheapest way to build repetitive purchase and loyal customer. The above picture is a lecturer - Student friendship built during my undergraduate days, which was an awesome and unforgettable experience. Anywhere you find friendship, please treasure it and where there isn't, start and nurture it, it...

Often times, we place what should start our priority list at the very end, we empower what should not be and dispower what should actually be and then we find out that, we are dissatisfied and displaced. A number of relationships suffer from misplaced priorities. In our early years of marriage, I nearly tread that path of placing my career above my marriage, but I have a husband who will not settle for less, who won’t let anything come above our marriage after God. I am thankful he didn't let us settle for less, rather we went for more. And just when our marriage was rightly placed and positioned, then our career fell in a better state.  We place our marriage above my choices and his preferences, everything we do, we do it for US. We also place people above things and achievements, to us family is everything and it has helped us a great deal. Do you care to know why it has to be my husband or nobody else and why he is my topmost priority? It is because he also pla...

There is no 3rd gender, there is either male or female. If anyone gives up on his/her partner, the person is still going to end up with a male/female. So why not learn to work it out and make what you share flourish and who you have glow.   If you think your man/woman isn't good enough, you are still going to end up with same gender, with little insignificant difference or no difference at all. In fact just when you think what you have is less, you would be surprise to know, you can’t even get more outside. I did a research with five of my males friends and results shows that “men are men, regardless of height, weight, state of origin, educational background and all”, and same goes for female gender. I then conclude that there is no 3rd gender, “that blue is blue, regardless of its shade and because its sky blue, navy blue or turquoise blue does not change it to green. Some years into my marriage, few men asked me to give them one of my friends to marry, thinking t...

Our actions are the reason for the reactions we get. When our actions are not right and positive, then wrong and negative reactions are inevitable. Our relationships respond to the law of cause and effect. Most reactions from others are what our actions have ignited. Our actions are like the seeds and other's reactions are the harvest. The quality of our harvest is dependent on the quality of our seed.  I counseled a woman, who complains that her man didn't celebrate her success. Only to find out that she didn't even shared the success with her partner. She only shared it with Face book and assumed that he must have seen the post and ignored. Just when I told her to share it with him and mentioned that it’s skipped her mind, she got all the reactions she needed and craved. Those little things we don't pay attention to, are the little foxes that spoils the vine. The root cause in that relationship is our lines of actions. Most acts we see people display and ...

"Give me, Give me Attitude" shortens the life span of any relationship, because life is a give and take, while death is a take and take. Any relationship without an exchange (give and take) will soon be dead. When anyone takes too much from a relationship than they give, life is being taken away from it gradually.  He who only knows how to take and not to give, becomes a parasite and might never be "A can't do without person". We should give, not because the other person lacks, but because we need to make deposits in order to withdraw for account not to show danger. I had lost friends in the past because of this deficiency, not because I wanted anything back, but because we all need to bring something to the table (time, effort or money) even if it’s not equivalent. Just like the image above is a moment of reunion, where we shared value. God GIVES us life and we GIVE him the glory. Our parent GIVE birth to us and we GIVE them honor. A man GIVES the ...

The golden rule for love, is love your neighbor as yourself. No one can give what they don't have, so when you can't love yourself, then you can't love another. Because love start from self and flowing through to others. So when you don't know how to love yourself, loving others will be mission impossible. More so, the love you can't give to yourself, you should not expect from others, because loving yourself, set a good pace for others to love you. “Your partner will find it easy and irresistible to love you, when they find you loving yourself”. Inside SELF - LOVE, is self - care, self - respect, self - confidence, self - healing, self - belief, self - development, self - focus, self - awareness, self - help, self - healing, self - control, self - forgiveness, self - acceptance and self - esteem. This picture explain one of my moment of self-care at oriental luxury hotel, giving myself the deserve treat Self love is greater than other’s lov...